Author: Moh Al-Haifi, Lee Fitzpatrick
Contributors: Isabelle Drury
We’ve been reflecting deeply on relationships lately; the professional connections that form the bedrock of regenerative consultancies.
The conversations we’ve been having with founders and directors all circle back to the same tension: how do we grow without compromising our values? How do we build something sustainable without falling into the extractive patterns we’re trying to change?
If you’re running a purpose driven organisation you’re likely already relying heavily on your network and existing relationships to bring in new business. This reliance on relationship-based growth is genuinely one of the most regenerative approaches available to us. Your instinct to build from trust naturally aligns with the values you bring to your work. …but, we’ve noticed that many organisations resist formal marketing strategies precisely because they want to preserve this relational approach.
The question we find ourselves asking is this: what if the marketing strategy you’ve been avoiding could actually deepen these relationships rather than pull you away from them?
Relationship-Centred Growth
We first encountered the concept of “Scaling Deep” through our work with Unity Effect, a consultancy specialising in impact measurement and regenerative business. What began as a straightforward project to help with their marketing strategy and website design evolved into a rich exchange of ideas that fundamentally shifted how we approach our own work. The Systems Sanctuary‘s framework, explored in their report “The Art of Scaling Deep”, has since become embedded in every strategy we create.
As The Systems Sanctuary defines it, “Scaling Deep is understood as the deep personal and broad cultural transformational work that is required to create durable systems change.” Unlike traditional scaling models focused on expansion or replication, Scaling Deep emphasises the profound inner work and cultural transformation needed for lasting impact.
The heart of deep scaling isn’t found in generating heaps of new connections or pursuing rapid expansion. It’s about developing greater awareness of your existing network and understanding where genuine deepening can occur. It’s about recognising which relationships you’ve perhaps neglected and bringing conscious attention to how you nurture your entire business ecosystem.
Growing at the speed of relationships challenges the conventional notion that scaling requires constant outreach to new contacts. Instead, it suggests that your growth pace should be determined by the depth and health of your relationships.
This approach doesn’t limit your ambitions, it grounds them in something genuinely sustainable. In practice, rather than constantly seeking new leads, you systematically deepen connections with people already in your ecosystem. You create partnerships with aligned organisations. You co-develop offerings that serve your shared audience. You become intentional about your collaborations.
At Zebra Growth, we’re actively working toward this ourselves, albeit imperfectly. Our aim is to understand our closest relationships and ensure that, at minimum, we acknowledge important moments like birthdays or significant achievements.
When you deepen relationships, you create resilience. You build a network capable of weathering economic uncertainty. You create conditions for collaborative innovation that none of you could achieve in isolation. A strategic approach to growth that aligns with regenerative principles.
What Marketing Strategy Is Right For Relationship-Centred Growth?
This is where Account-Based Marketing (ABM) enters the picture.
ABM fundamentally reorients conventional marketing approaches. Rather than casting wide nets and hoping to catch as many leads as possible, ABM focuses on identifying and nurturing relationships with specific accounts (organisations or individuals) that matter most to your purpose and work.
ABM proves particularly suitable for regenerative consultancies because it’s relationship-centred by design. It treats each key relationship as unique and worthy of personalised attention. It also brings sales and marketing into alignment, rather than having these functions operate in separate silos, ABM encourages your team to collaborate around deepening specific relationships. Success in this framework isn’t measured by how many new contacts you make, but by how effectively you nurture the relationships that truly matter.
ABM moves away from impersonal mass emails and manipulative sales tactics. Instead, it creates meaningful touchpoints with people you genuinely wish to serve and collaborate with.
As we explore systematised approaches to relationships many of us worry that applying systems and processes to relationship-building somehow renders it less authentic or more extractive. I deeply understand the concern that systematising relationship-building somehow renders it less authentic or more extractive, yet there exists a fundamental difference between transaction and reciprocity. Transactional approaches take without genuine giving. Reciprocity acknowledges that relationships flourish when value flows bidirectionally.
Creating systems to support your relationships is intentional. It ensures important connections don’t slip through the cracks during hectic periods or economic downturns. It’s about remembering what matters to the people you care about professionally, just as you would in personal relationships.
Our understanding of relationship-centred growth continues to evolve through our work with purpose-driven organisations. Working alongside nRhythm on the With Life Community showed us how systematic approaches can support rather than replace human connections in regenerative work. With Good Stuff Coaching, we experienced how identity and relationships intertwine as they sought to better reflect their evolution after five years. Our partnership with social innovation agency Archipel & Co revealed the nuances of adapting Account-Based Marketing for organisations committed to positive impact.
These relationships, with their inherent challenges and learning moments, have reinforced our conviction that patient, intentional relationship cultivation forms the foundation for growth that honours both purpose and people, the essence of deep scaling in practice.
We’re also developing systems to track engagement with our content to better understand what resonates with people. When we notice someone repeatedly reading articles on a particular topic, we gain insight into their interests and challenges. This helps us show up more meaningfully in the relationship.
Practical Steps for Relationship-Centred Growth
The journey toward relationship-centred growth begins with awareness. When was the last time you mapped out all the relationships in your network? Understanding who exists in your ecosystem, and the varying levels of connection you maintain with them, forms the foundation of intentional relationship building. (We recommend re-mapping your ecosystem every 3-6 months as relationships naturally evolve.)
Once you’ve visualised your relationship landscape, the next step is deepening your understanding through conversation. Have you ever directly asked people how they perceive your relationship? Simple questions like “How is our relationship developing?” or “Where might we strengthen our connection?” can yield profound insights. When approached with genuine curiosity rather than a sales agenda, these conversations transform how you nurture your relationships.
In a regenerative growth approach, relationships are not a means to an end — they are the growth strategy. Partnership-led growth shifts focus from extracting value to co-creating it. Instead of asking, “How can we win this client?” we begin to ask, “How can we grow together?”
This mindset invites collaboration, reciprocity, and shared purpose. It means identifying partnerships whose missions, audiences, or capabilities complement yours — and designing initiatives that generate mutual benefit. Partnerships might look like co-hosted events, shared research, storytelling collaborations, or cross-referrals — but the essence lies in cultivating trust and alignment before action.
When you centre growth around partnership, your ecosystem strengthens organically. Each new relationship becomes a node of possibility, expanding reach, resources, and resilience — not through competition, but through collective evolution.
Understanding leads naturally to meaningful action. Consider how you’re marking important moments in your relationships. Acknowledging a business anniversary, celebrating a key milestone, or checking in during challenging times demonstrates authentic care. These touchpoints build connections beyond transactional exchanges and create a foundation for deeper collaboration.
This foundation enables the most powerful element of relationship-centred growth: co-creation. Explore opportunities to develop something new with your closest relationships. At Zebra Growth, we’re currently integrating our regenerative marketing approach with Unity Effect’s impact measurement expertise to create offerings neither of us could develop alone. These collaborative ventures often yield the most impactful work.
Of course, relationship cultivation faces practical constraints. Deepening connections demands time and energy, resources often scarce, particularly during economic uncertainty. This creates a challenging paradox: the moments when we most need strong relationships often coincide with times when we feel least able to invest in them. This is precisely why a systematised approach becomes valuable. When resources are limited, being strategic about where you focus becomes crucial. Which relationships align most deeply with your mission? Which offer mutual support during challenging times? Which might open possibilities aligned with your long-term vision?
A thoughtful, systematised approach to relationship-building helps you focus your energy where it matters most. Rather than attempting to deepen every connection simultaneously, you become strategic about investing your limited resources for the greatest mutual benefit—creating resilience for both your organisation and your network.
As we reflect on these ideas, we’re curious about your experience. How are you approaching growth in your regenerative consultancy? What tensions are you navigating between scaling and staying true to your values?
If you’d like to continue this exploration, we’d love to invite you to join our upcoming events where we’ll explore these ideas in more depth with other regenerative consultancies facing similar challenges. Join us for “Decolonizing Marketing“, our live course starting November 4th, or our online Regenerative Marketing Playground events taking place in November and December. These events will create intimate spaces to explore what it means to cultivate growth that honours relationships and ecological boundaries.
After all, that’s what growing at the speed of relationships truly means.
To learn more about reciprocity, explore this article from the Tapestry Institute: Relationship and Reciprocity. The Tapestry Institute also recommends this paper from Journal of Indigenous Voices in Social Work, by Michael Anthony Hart.